Am I a Bad Friend?
The author reflects on their two-decade digital history and attempts to analyze their friendships through data. By creating a personal CRM from their extensive chat archives, they aim to understand their emotional connections and the dynamics of their relationships. This journey reveals insights about their social interactions and the noise present in digital communication.
- ▪The author analyzed 1.2 million messages from their chats over 20 years.
- ▪They created a personal CRM to better understand their friendships and emotional bandwidth.
- ▪The analysis highlighted that a significant portion of their communication consists of noise rather than substantive content.
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| Original publisher | Vadim Drobinin - Founder & iOS Engineer |
| Canonical URL | https://drobinin.com/posts/am-i-a-bad-friend/ |
| Publication time | Sat, 30 May 2026 15:24:36 -0500 |
| Retrieval time | 2026-05-30T20:29:45.642Z |
| Last seen | 2026-05-30T20:29:45.642Z |
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| Summary | WeSearch · cerebras-chat (WeSearch summarizer) |
| Summary source text | contentText |
| Citation coverage | Summary is a WeSearch-generated derivative; primary citation is the original publisher URL. |
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| Publisher visit | Yes — open original |
| Substitutes article? | No — link-out required for full text |
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| Snippet | May a short excerpt of the publisher's text be shown? | Allowed |
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| Retrieval / RAG | May the content be exposed for third-party retrieval-augmented generation? | Not asserted |
| Model training | May the content be used to train AI models? | Not asserted |
| Commercial reuse | May the content be reused commercially? | Not permitted |
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Am I a Bad Friend? I analysed 20 years of my chats and turned 1.2M messages into a structured vault of my life - to win friends and influence people. Instead, I learnt things about my emotional bandwidth, endearment cycles, and friendship half-lives. 27 May 2026 · MLX, data analysis, LLMs, 2nd brain My digital history Data archives Drowning in noise Which Sasha Parsing them all Training the prompt Directional sentiment What the data shows Wait but why? Comments ↑249 · 153 💬 On this page ▼ My digital history Data archives Drowning in noise Which Sasha Parsing them all Training the prompt Directional sentiment What the data shows Wait but why? Comments ↑249 · 153 💬 In 2014, Tim Urban of WaitButWhy published Your Life in Weeks - a grid where each square is one week of one's life, and most…
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