If we do not stop to help each other, what do we become?
A former Air Force officer shared a personal story with Stack Overflow co-founder Jeff Atwood about how the platform's community supported him during a traumatic deployment in the Philippines. The writer emphasized that while AI tools can provide technical answers, they lack the human connection and sense of community that made Stack Overflow invaluable during his crisis. Atwood uses this story to argue that digital communities must actively cultivate human relationships to remain meaningful in the age of large language models.
- ▪A former Air Force officer wrote to Jeff Atwood describing how Stack Overflow users helped him with college assignments during the Zamboanga Siege in 2013.
- ▪The writer stated that while an LLM could have provided the same technical answers, it would not have offered the emotional connection or sense of community he needed.
- ▪Jeff Atwood published the letter to highlight the importance of maintaining human-centric online communities that are not solely owned by billionaires.
- ▪The article concludes that society must make extra efforts to help one another online to preserve the value of human interaction in learning and problem-solving.
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| Original publisher | Coding Horror |
| Canonical URL | https://blog.codinghorror.com/if-we-do-not-stop-to-help-each-other-what-do-we-become/ |
| Publication time | Sun, 27 Sep 2026 03:20:46 +0000 |
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If we do not stop to help each other, what do we become? Jeff Atwood 25 Sep 2026 — 3 min read — Comments Yesterday, I received this email as a response to You Can't Vibe Code Love. It's such a remarkable and powerful statement that I asked permission to share it here, in its entirety, with personal information redacted:Hey Jeff,Hope you and your family are doing well.Just jogging your memory; I reached out to you (and John Carmack) about how difficult interviewing had become despite me being a stellar engineer at my work. You offered some words of wisdom, wrote me a postcard, which I still have, and stickers (which my kids loved).I took a leadership coordination role in Tokyo, and it freed me from the interview process I hated, and I'm still programming.
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