Men Are Expected to Love Having Sex in a Specific Way. For Me, It Has the Opposite Effect.
The article discusses a man's preference for slow and intimate sex over fast-paced sexual encounters. He shares his experiences of losing sensation and erection during vigorous sex, which contrasts with his enjoyment of a more rhythmic approach. The advice provided emphasizes the importance of personal taste in sexual experiences and finding a compatible partner.
- ▪The man prefers intimate, slow, and rhythmic sex over fast-paced encounters.
- ▪He experienced loss of sensation and erection during vigorous sex.
- ▪The article highlights the significance of personal taste and compatibility in sexual relationships.
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| Original publisher | Slate |
| Canonical URL | https://slate.com/advice/2026/05/sex-advice-men-performance-speed.html?via=rss |
| Publication time | Wed, 20 May 2026 16:40:00 GMT |
| Retrieval time | 2026-05-20T16:45:02.698Z |
| Last seen | 2026-05-20T16:45:02.698Z |
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| Publisher visit | Yes — open original |
| Substitutes article? | No — link-out required for full text |
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| Retrieval / RAG | May the content be exposed for third-party retrieval-augmented generation? | Not asserted |
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| Commercial reuse | May the content be reused commercially? | Not permitted |
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How to Do It Men Are Expected to Love Having Sex in a Specific Way. For Me, It Has the Opposite Effect. I’ve tried to make it work. Advice by Rich Juzwiak May 20, 202612:40 PM Photo illustration by Slate. Photo by Sentir y Viajar/Getty Images Plus. Copy Link Share Share Comment Copy Link Share Share Comment How to Do It is Slate’s sex advice column. Have a question? Send it to Stoya and Rich here. It’s anonymous! Dear How to Do It, I’m a 46-year-old male, and I’m a father and a husband. I have always preferred a specific way of having sex. I like intimate, slow, and rhythmic sex. When I was younger, I thought sex was a performance and did the whole “pumping and hammering” thing, but I always lost sensation. As I got older, I would also lose my erection when having fast sex.
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